What Women Want In A Relationship
del.icio.us This PageBy Joseph Matthews
Author, Art of Approaching
I recieved a rather short, sweet, and intriguing question recently...
A QUESTION
Do women really know what they are looking for in a relationship?
--from Chilibean
AN ANSWER
Now that's a loaded question if I ever heard one, lol.
Here's the thing...
Different women have different expectations about what they want from a man and a relationship.
For example, a young woman may not know what she wants in a
relationship simply because she isn't experienced enough to know what's
important to her yet.
A more mature woman, one who's been in a lot of different
relationships, may know exactly what she's looking for in a
relationship.
But there's one thing all types of women know about before they get into a relationship...
They know what they're ATTRACTED to!
See, the female mind processes things in this manner:
1. Is there something attracting me to this man?
2. Will this man be a good fit for me in the long term?
Usually, number 1 will kick in almost immediately within the first few
minutes of meeting a man. They'll start evaluating the man's attraction
quotient.
Number two won't kick in until number one has been met.
This means that if you can get a woman really turned on, or even in
bed, then she'll immediately start evaluating you based on your
potential for a long term relationship.
Women who try and do this backwards, by getting into a relationship and
hoping the attraction will grow, usually end up disappointed.
When it comes to what women are actually looking for in a relationship, you can expect these factors to come into play:
- How well does the man treat her?
- What is the level of attraction occurring?
- How good is he in bed?
- How strong is the emotional connection?
- How good of a provider is he?
Let's quickly go through these five female relationship factors...
The first factor can be misleading. All women want to be treated well, but they don't necessarily want to be treated like goddesses to be fawned over.
(Sure, that's okay from time to time, but too much of a good thing is a bad thing...)
Women want to feel like the man they are with is loving and strong. So
if you treat them in a way where they know you care, know they are
safe, but know you won't take their bullcrap, they will feel well
treated.
The next factor has to do with what we discussed earlier. If they are
still feeling sexual attraction towards you, then this factor is met.
But if things have fizzled, this could be a deal breaker.
Most women aren't used to having men who are good in bed. So if you can
please her between the sheets, then chances are she'll see you as a
"keeper."
If there is a strong emotional connection, a woman will want to be
around you. She will feel connected to you and want to please you. This
is a very important factor in any relationship.
Women who don't have a strong emotional connection to the men they are
in a relationship with will tend to cheat on them, because they aren't
being fulfilled emotionally.
Finally, a man who is a good provider will make a woman feel safe and cared for.
Many women will gravitate towards men who can pay their bills, even if all the other relationship factors are absent.
But this doesn't mean that type of relationship is a happy or stable one (for either party).
Showing a woman you're a good provider is probably the least important
factor in a strong relationship, but it is still a factor.
But the first step you need to be aware of before you can even begin to
THINK about relationships, is the initial ATTRACTION phase.
And that phase starts with how you MEET her.
I personally believe that any man has the potential to attract any woman.
If they know what to do.
In my book, The Art Of Approaching, you're going to learn some
super-ninja techniques that will lay the foundation for a great
relationship.
You'll learn how to plant the initial seeds of attraction that will blossom into a good relationship.
Don't waste another second. Right now, there is a woman looking to be in a relationship with YOU.
You don't want to deny her that opportunity do you?
Get your copy of The Art Of Approaching now.
Wishing you success,
Joseph Matthews
Art of Approaching