How Not To Blow It With A Sure Thing

By Joseph Matthews
Author, Art of Approaching

Today, I've got a real interesting subject.

Read on...

A QUESTION FROM A READER:

Hi Joseph,

I've just read The Art Of Approaching, and have a question for you about when your "Dis-interest" in a woman to get her attention goes too far.

Here's the story. I've recently switched gyms and have been working out a lot. When I first began I noticed this one very attractive brunette - a real bunny. Every guy in the gym looks at her like they are about to set themselves free on her, it's kind of disgusting. Anyway, as time moved on I kept noticing her and she me. Things got to the stage where we'd be at the gym at the same time and become involved in this ridiculous flirting routine! One day the girl comes up to me and stands behind me as i'm doing some bicep curls. She's wearing new lycra and - perfume!! Man, I was pissed. I was like back off i'm working out - I like you but i'm trying to work out here!!

Moving on, it's been kind of hard just to say hi when you are both hot, sweaty and generally frustrated. It's at the point now where she is leaving the gym early!! - shes pissed. Women eh? Would you pursue it? Surly the point is to say 'I had her' rather than 'I could have had her'?

Best

AJ

MY RESPONSE:

Okay, I want to make a distinction here...

There's a difference between "Active Disinterest," which is what I recommend in my book...

And TOTAL disregard, which is what seems to be occurring here.

See, the concept of "Active Disinterest" is where you act like you're not attracted to a girl, but continue to do things to make her attracted to you, in order to keep from scaring her off too early.

But when you just act disinterested and completely ignore trying to get the girl attracted to you, or in this case, not pursuing your target once you've gotten her attracted, you're completely missing the point.

See, women will do little things to let you know they're interested in you.

These things are called "Indicators Of Interest."

Very rarely will you have a situation where a woman will be very aggressive and do all the work for you.

For the most part, women wait for the MAN to make the first move.

It's YOUR job to know when that is.

If you're too busy pumping iron to notice that a woman is flirting with you, then your priorities place more importance on your workout than they do on the woman.

So you need to know what your priorities are.

You also need to know when its time to stop flirting and when its time to make your move.

Here's an interesting fact:

Most Men Never Know When To Make Their Move On A Woman!

It's true.

It's like the Hand of God itself has to fall from the sky and slap them upside the head to get them to realize the moment of truth is upon them!

But this can all be boiled down to one simple skill...

The ability to read the woman's signs!

This comes in the form of --

1. Body Language Cues

2. Flirting

3. Game Playing and Sexual Tension

Women will do all three of these things when they are interested in a guy. But the one thing they WON'T do (with very rare exceptions) is...

MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!

If you're a man, then the responsibility falls on YOU to make the move.

The woman will just signal to you when she's ready for you to do that!

And if you miss her signals, you're going to miss your opportunity.

Did you know that if a guy doesn't make a move on a woman, the woman will just assume that he isn't interested in her?

It's TRUE!

You can only play the "I think there's something there but I'm not sure" card for so long before the woman will lose interest.

If you have ANY trouble with recognizing the "GO" signs, making your move, or just meeting women in general, you REALLY need to check out my book.

The Art Of Approaching is the #1 guidebook for men like you who want to get better with women.

You'll be glad you did.
Joseph Matthews
Art of Approaching